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Great Expectations...

We all have expectations, from everyone from every situation. Expectations are a result of our thought process that is based on experience

You can’t compare apples even with apples

We are humans. Seven billion of us on the planet. So what connects us and what differentiates us.

The Climb

I was woken up in the middle of the night and taken to a distant place, a place which was away from the city lights and the noises,

Priority

We all are busy people. Busy with work…so much work that we don’t have time for anything apart from work.

Cyclone

The sky was dark, pitch black. The cloud you were under was burdened. The unbearable weight led for the cloud to retaliate in the form of lighting. .

First SOLO Trip! A life-changing experience

How did you manage to travel alone? I don’t believe that you traveled alone all the way alone in a different country

The examination called life

We all are busy people. Busy with work…so much work that we don’t have time for anything apart from work.

Go Inside

The sky was dark, pitch black. The cloud you were under was burdened. The unbearable weight led for the cloud to retaliate in the form of lighting. .

WORK FROM HOME – A boon or a bane

Give customers a reason to do business with you. Today’s work scenario has changed drastically. The World Wide Web (www) has made working very different to the beginning ….

When in isolation, Reflect

We are so busy in life, or I must say try to be busy in life that when an opportunity comes our way to not be busy ….

Psychological investments for emotional savings

We all save money consciously. It caters mostly to our physiological needs. We buy materialistic entities like food, clothes, and accessories. ….

What If I am not there?

It’s a natural human instinct to be curious about the happening of the events around him. Know more by clicking on the button.

Work Life Balance - A Revolution during Covid 19

It’s been more than a year since this Covid 19 Pandemic hit us. Know more by clicking on the button.

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It could really help! Not a stigma…

“Counselling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education and career goals.”— Consensus definition of counseling developed and approved through 20/20: A Vision for the Future of Counselling

People on the daily basis are suffering with so much mental pressure that even they do not realize that what harm it is doing them. We all need people whom we can trust and vent out to but do we always get what we want, supposedly, not everyone is always that lucky, but there is an evolution of a profession just to the rescue of all those people who really can share their problems and also get to their right path towards having the right lifestyle and the right attitude to achieve a lifestyle that they always wished for. Nowadays everyone talks about good health, fitness and eating right but do people realize that all this is only useful when you feel in the right space of mind and also know how to manage daily problems and stresses of life. Can you think about eating right when you are emotionally drowned? People do not understand that just adapting to stress is not the key to healthy lifestyle and well-being. A study stated that out of every 3 people 1 is depressed and with that census it is alarming and people should start taking help of professionals. We readily say Yes to professionals for our financial management, physical health then why not the mental health? People are so fascinated with the western lifestyle and for the matter of fact people in the developed country have truly understood the importance of counseling and they all on a regular basis consult psychologists for their day to day stresses so why are we lagging behind in adopting new approach to well-being. Counselors have a wellness based, developmental approach to mental health which makes them the people who help us choose the right lifestyle and they help understand ourselves and our environment better. Going to counselors and seeking counseling should not be stigmatized instead it should be promoted, so that people who are suffering or are on the verge of falling for it, they can easily go out and consult a professional and can lead a happy life.

COME ON TAKE A STEP AND SPREAD THE WORD THAT, IT IS NOT A STIGMA IT IS THE RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARDS LIFE!

A war within

What sets fire within ignites a war, a war within us, and a war for the society. It is the reason for avowal, by the virtue that at the end of day everyone sits tight for acknowledgement and validation. War that runs in the veins can turn a rose into a wildflower and a human into a living dead. Each passerby is indeed living a life as vivid and troublesome. A single mother, a cancer patient, an obese kid who is being mocked at school, a girl who has been cheated by the guy she trusted the most, a sick parent. Honestly, who really isn’t fighting a war with themselves or with someone else? Albeit predominantly having skeptical overtone but a war can also sculpt and groom a person. The war that a female employee fights with her colleagues for being judged for getting constant promotions turns her into a girl boss. The girl who was cheated on realized how independence and self love is liberating. The fat kid who dines on diet pills fights a war against the mockers to finally live a fit life. So that’s what verily keeps us going this fire, this war that all of us are fighting and all of us must continue fighting because at the end of the day that’s who we are a product of war.

-Darshana Santosh

Great Expectations...

We all have expectations, from everyone from every situation. Expectations are a result of our thought process that is based on experience. According to CBT the thoughts drive our feelings and feelings drive our behaviour. Expectations come under the feelings category in this case. So what happens if our feelings (expectations) are not fulfilled? We react (behave) in a certain way that may not be desirable. Often the result of such behaviour creates challenges in personal relations and can cause irreversible impact to one’s life. Imagine losing a good friend for life just because that person couldn’t fulfil your small expectation and you behaved rudely to him/her. The most issues or challenges one faces is with respect to members of one’s own family.

It is important to understand that there might be an irrationality involved when one sets expectations. This happens as one doesn’t consider the situation or the other person’s point of view. So the cause of this actually is the thoughts and not the feelings driven by thoughts. I will not say don’t have any expectations but one must always try to bring about a rationality in thoughts and then set expectations as it is nearly impractical not to have any expectations. It will definitely deliver better results

-SVK

You can’t compare apples even with apples

We are humans. Seven billion of us on the planet. So what connects us and what differentiates us. It’s probably the same thing; intellect. Although we are similar in a macro sense, i.e. our habits, our behaviour, our characteristics are similar we are not the same. Each individual amongst the seven billion of us is different. A son different from a father, a daughter from her mother, even identical twins are different. People although might look similar, but will be different in core behaviour. This behaviour is determined by their knowledge and experience. The subconscious mind is the major driving force in the behaviour exhibited. Each one has a different wiring. We have to understand this. We are so used to comparison that we seriously dent the confidence of a person often. As a famous person rightly said, ‘If you judge a fish by its ability to climb the tree, the whole life it will think it’s stupid’, similarly if all are compared only on marks or looks or certain specific abilities. Even the apples of the same tree are exposed to different micro elements of the environment, hence develop differently. They will definitely differ in some characteristics. Similarly humans even though having similar environments will differ in some or the other characteristics. Hence don’t compare, everyone has a different model of the world.

THE CLIMB

I was woken up in the middle of the night and taken to a distant place, a place which was away from the city lights and the noises, a place which didn’t know what humans looked like, a place that was pretty much abandoned. The sky that night was pitch black, it was indeed the darkest shade of black the sky could have ever been. It was dead quiet there, so quiet that all I could hear was the whiff of my breaths and the hisses of the reptiles in perfect symphony with the wind. I was scared and lonely, I was dazed and powerless all I could do was wait for the sun to guide me through this labyrinth.It was dawn and right there, in front of me stood ranges of enormous mountains. As far as for my vision I could only see mountains, as if there was no end. All I could think about was how unfortunate was I to be stuck here, I kept on questioning myself WHY ME? I doubted my ability to see the other side of the mountains. The mountains made me realize how vulnerable and petty I was. The problems of my life seemed to be infinite.I stood there gawking at the mountains for few hours, when something took over me. A sense of responsibility that there’s someone out there waiting for me on the other side of the mountains. There’s someone who want me to gear up and fight my battles. Someone who kept on telling me that every labyrinth has a way out. So, I started the climb at first it was difficult as if someone had tied weights to my ankles but after I saw the first ray of sunlight, I got accustomed to it. I kept falling off the mountain but I started from the start every time, and again. I wanted to try everything and see how far could I get. Eventually I became an unstoppable machine one mountain after another when I saw that these mountains were not so enormous from the other side.

THAT’S WHAT THESE MOUNTAINS TAUGHT ME THAT THERE’S ALWAYS GOING TO BE ANOTHER MOUNTAIN AND YOU CAN ALWAYS MOVE IT.

-Darshana Santosh

Priority

We all are busy people. Busy with work…so much work that we don’t have time for anything apart from work. Very rarely do we realize that we are working outside in to inside out. We give preference to work first, then to others including family and friends and the last to ourselves. We tend to forget that it should be the reverse. First ourselves, then family and friends and last work. Whenever we are in need we will always rely on ourselves first , then our relations and then finally job.By saying this I don’t mean that one should not give importance to work. Rather one should orient ones work according to one’s desires and capabilities and not the other way round. If you are stressed because of your work you will not be happy in your relationships and will not find peace. Remember it is easier to change your job than your relationship. Set your priorities accordingly.

-SVK

Cyclone

The sky was dark, pitch black. The cloud you were under was burdened. The unbearable weight led for the cloud to retaliate in the form of lighting. The darkness escalated and the wind went wild. No sooner did it start to rain, it was the rain of your thoughts. The rain of your chaotic mind and the quandary. The rain augmented from the turbid thoughts to perplexity, insecurity and self doubt. The accession of your invalidation compelled the wind to go fierce and angry. The thoughts were so brutal that it could have led to a cyclone. It could have been the cyclone of the destructive thoughts, the cyclone of the negativity that consumed you, the inferiority complex that engulfed you. As a matter of fact it could have been the cyclone of you not being good enough, or you being haunted by the demons. But, it happened so that you had a choice. The choice might have been difficult because sometimes its easier to be hurt than to actually heal the wound. Nevertheless, you rose above the wound, you fought with your riotous mind vehemently, you believed in yourself and attacked all the negative thoughts. You choose to be the cyclone yourself instead and destruct the adversity and the dubiousness viciously, and witness the bright smiling sunlight.

That’s when you realize that there’s a reason why cyclones are named after humans.

-Darshana Santosh

First SOLO Trip! A life-changing experience

How did you manage to travel alone? I don’t believe that you traveled alone all the way alone in a different country. Were you with someone? Well, these were the kind of questions I was asked when I came back from my first solo trip, Yes my first backpack ever. But to be very honest I didn’t feel unusual or you can say it was very normal to hear such questions because maybe I was waiting for this. Even I could have asked the same thing to people who traveled alone. This is one such thing that is not everyone’s cup of tea. I can bet on this that not everyone can dare to travel alone. But trust if you do it once, it will surely open your horizon.

But trust me traveling alone will completely change your way of looking the things, the beauty and this world. Initially, I used to dream of a big house, an expensive car and all the materialistic luxurious things but now things have totally changed for me. Just close your eyes for once and think of the mobile phones you had in your life and then think for how much time did those phones actually made you feel happy and for how much time did those phones actually gave you that happiness for which you worked so hard to get them. I guess probably for a week, or a month or at max 6 months Right? And now think of that one thing you did in your life say a trip with your friends, an adventure sport or maybe something which bought you that adrenaline rush into you. Now I bet those things or activity can still bring that Goosebumps in you and you still gets excited thinking of those things. This is what I am talking of.

Meeting new people while traveling and sharing stories is the best part os solo traveling. Getting to know somebody’s culture is one sort of a unique experience. Imagine you are stranded on an island with strangers and you all spent the night with them dancing, singing and drinking. You end up being the best of friends even when you know that you might not meet for the rest of your life.

Materialistic things can only excite you for some time, not for lifelong but adventures, experiences will remain with you always and will keep moving you forward or will keep pushing you to greater limits for sure. There comes a time in life when you are all by yourself. No one is there with you, not even your family, not even your parents or siblings or spouse but you and only you. At that moment you realize how alone you were and all that you have been doing in your life was just for nothing.

Traveling solo gave me the confidence to live alone, it made me realize that the real gift in your life is your “Present” and you can only get it by giving it to yourself. I mean who has seen the future? So why to worry about the future? We work our asses day and night and we save money for our future but tell me honestly has anyone used their saved money the way they wanted to in the future. I guess the percentage would be pretty less.

-Nikhil Jain

The examination called Life

We are used to giving exams regularly. We learn and educate ourselves to be professionally competent. In the course of our formal education we give a lot of exams. Sometimes we are too attached or get affected by the result of these exams. What if we get less marks or what if we fail!, is the big question, and the emotional baggage along with it. The social world doesn’t help either. In an ultra-competitive world there is immense pressure on an individual to perform in the exam that is so called as one of the most important things in his life. Trust me it isn’t. There are many more challenges in your life and they simply don’t depend upon your performance in one exam. Life in itself is an exam which keeps on testing you at every stage, with or without you understanding it. So don’t be bogged down if you are not able to perform or fail in an exam. Keep trying and never give up. One exam is not and can never be the end of the world. Remember, Life is the ultimate examination……

-SVK

Go Inside

We all feel we know ourselves. I believe that’s not always the case. We often stumble when we are asked a few questions about us by others. Well some of them might not really matter to us, but some definitely do matter. In such a case we are often left to ponder about the aspects that we don’t know about ourselves. Many times some behavior or characteristic of ours is brought to our cognizance to us by someone else. It is generally a family member or close friend under whose radar of observation we are functioning, tells us about us, the way we behave, the attitude we carry, and sometimes our interactions with others.
We are constantly striving to fulfill tasks that will please or satisfy others. We are so engrossed in doing so that we often forget that we have a life of our own. A life which we have forgotten how to live. We are caught in the rat race and have an absurd notion of counting success in terms of money. Our life has become more materialistic. Impatience is on the rise, we are always stressed and our health is often not the greatest. Don’t you ponder sometimes what are we doing of our lives? To be frank, we don’t. Actually we don’t have the time to do so. This is the most common answer.
The solution or at least an attempt to the solution for this is ‘Go Inside’. Try to find yourself by going inside your mind. Give some time for yourself. Meditate, speak to yourself and find yourself. Do things that make you feel happy, feel better. Try a hobby that you have not done for a long time. Work on the feedback you receive from others to develop yourselves. Sometimes it is good to take a pause in your life to make it better. We all have a reset button. We just need to activate it. For a better life ‘Go Inside.’

-SVK

WORK FROM HOME – A boon or a bane

Today’s work scenario has changed drastically. The World Wide Web (www) has made working very different to the beginning of the industrial revolution where people needed to go to the factory or workplace to execute the work. Today a laptop is good enough to replace your office, all you need is a good strong Wi-Fi connection to be online, and then you can just login and start your work. But does this really work. Is it so easy? Can it be so easy? A lot of questions arise in our minds. If it was so easy wouldn’t many organizations opt for the same?

Work from home primarily originated in the IT & ITES sector of the services domain. Work from home is advantageous for the organization as well as the employees. It helps organization reduce overhead costs and helps employee save his non value added time. However in an unprecedented scenario work from home can be a challenge. In case of an emergency if work from home has to be compulsorily imposed on all employees there can be a lot of chaos. Organizations are unprepared for such moves and often taken aback when something like this comes across. Here the challenge is not only physical implementation, but more at a social psychology level to get prepared. Some people do not have the ability to concentrate on their work if the environment is changed. It may not be their intention, but they might not be able to focus or concentrate on the work. This may lead to a loss of productivity. Another issue is the communication between the team members. Although technology has reached great heights and video conferences can done easily, there are some aspects that do not only hamper the work, but also dampen the spirit of those executing it. Imagine a network loss or battery drain during an important call with the team. This leads to a loss of productivity. Also technology can’t be always dependent on. If one feels that work from home reduces ones workload, they might be in for a surprise as it can be the other way round. Due to lack of a clear channel of communication, the tasks may be needed to be repeated. E.g. There are 5 persons discussing online and one person has some network issue. You have to repeat it all over again.

There is a high chance that work from home might be very stressful for some people. Managing personal life and professional life simultaneously from home might make a person restless. It might lead to anxiety and depression to people who are not able to cope up with such situations. Lack of social exposure might alienate people from others and as a result might lead to a problem in their relationship with others. In the long term there is a risk that excessive work from home can lead to a person becoming asocial.

-SVK

When in isolation, Reflect

We are so busy in life, or I must say try to be busy in life that when an opportunity comes our way to not be busy, we are confused and often scared as to what should be done. How will I utilize my time? What will I do in spare time? If this doesn’t happen then, I that doesn’t happen then. All these questions come to our mind. We become restless and often anxious even if we have to think about it. As we are so occupied in passing time that we don’t often think if we are investing in it, or just spending it. And what if we have a lot of time in hand. How to keep ourselves occupied. In an event when we are isolated from the world due to some emergency situation, it is very difficult to compose ourselves to remain calm and stable. Our mind urges us to go out and we feel like we are under containment. We are so not used to be with ourselves, to relax , to reflect. We often forget that our body and mind are tirelessly working and need a reset. Our interests and hobbies take a backseat and all we worry about is career, because all we want to do is, earn money, earn lots of it. So we forget to reflect what we are and try to become what we are not. And in such a situation if you are put in a situation like isolation, that too an enforced one, you are just clueless of what to do. Try reflecting what you were and what you are. Enjoy the free time rather than being stressed about not having to do anything. Make a plan for future. Set goals, try to identify your destination. Talk to people who can guide you, mentor you and counsel you.

-SVK

Psychological investments for emotional savings

We all save money consciously. It caters mostly to our physiological needs. We buy materialistic entities like food, clothes, and accessories. We plan our investments to buy house and car. Do we do this much of planning for our emotional requirements? Well, by emotional requirements I mean love, fulfillment peace, content etc. Pause, take a step back and just think of when you have ever thought of investing in emotional requirements. There is a high probability that the answer is, never. Many would argue that buying some of these materialistic items will also fulfill their emotional needs. It may be an excuse which many might be giving, because material things in themselves don’t satisfy the emotional needs. Imagine buying a car but getting no time to drive it, buying a nice sea facing apartment but spending most of your time in office. Getting back to the point, I would like to say that one should make psychological investments so that they can do emotional savings. For example if one loves singing or dancing or any other hobby one must invest some time so that they develop it for the future. A talent or hobby is always a good saving and often can be utilized in trying and testing times. Another investment is in relations. Yes relations. We often tend to take an established relation for granted and literally end up wasting all the investment that we would have made in building the relation. Hence conscious psychological investments are important in maintaining and running good relations. One should often consider the wealth in terms of emotional savings rather than mere monetary value . -SVK

What If I am not there?

We all want to be informed about whatever is going around us. It’s a natural human instinct to be curious about the happening of the events around him. The feeling arising out of not being informed or not having knowledge about the events and activities is known as fear of missing out (FOMO). FOMO is a common phenomenon and can occur to anyone anytime. The degree impact on an individual however varies according to his mental health and coping mechanism. Some person may get anxious if he feels he is not informed about events or circumstances which some others amongst his family or friends might be informed. He feels out of place if others have some information that he doesn’t have. This is where FOMO kicks in. If this happens regularly there can be a constant anxiety that can loom in the mind of the person and he might suffer from depression. Hence FOMO should not be taken lightly.
-SVK

Work Life Balance - A Revolution during Covid 19

It’s been more than a year since this Covid-19 pandemic hit us. In comparison, the time seems to be at a standstill where restrictions are forced on us. The thing about the human mind is the more someone tries to put it under a constrained environment, the more it tries to resist. This is the reason today that most of us are facing a huge challenge to adjust to this lockdown. On one hand, we’re bound to stay and home, and on the other hand, we’re expected to not let our efficiency at work go for a toss. This can get exhilarating at times, and here’s why this article is going to help you because we’re not only giving you tips for work from home but also trying to connect it with your mental health.

The pandemic has compelled a lot of people to make work from home. As difficult as it can get but with the right business and time management competencies, it could be simple to keep a healthy work-life balance. Work from home is not as simple as it looks — it might be exhausting emotionally than simply physically. But by following some tips below, you are going to have the ability to genius a brand fresh work-life balance throughout the lockdown 2.0

It is time to revolutionize the concept of work-life balance: Gone are the days when you will have to work for extra hours just because you’re saving time traveling or being expected to work on a weekend because you’re home anyway! We need to start looking at ourselves as human beings and not machines. Humans function in a way wherein lack of rest might end up being the primary factor affecting work productivity hence, we need to take a step and understand that work-life balance is not a myth, and we need to set a boundarywhere work ends and where your personal life starts. Setting up a perimeter will help your mind not to get consumed by work and mix up the work and personal identities.
Does setting up a workstation really increase efficiency? : Workstations can be a good way to not let your personal life mingle with work, but it can get difficult sometimes. You need to understand that the human mind is mighty, and at the end of the day.

The subconscious mind understands that this workstation is not in the same environment as the office. So what to do in this case? The best thing is to accept that in the coming years the situation will remain the same and work from home is going to be the new kind of normal. Acceptance will help you get control of your mind, and work efficiency will then be in favor.

How with trust issues amongst colleagues during work from home: We humans are social creatures, and we are bound to have a social circle. One dominant aspect that comes under consideration due to work from home is colleagues frequently catch themselves doubting each other. This doubt has given rise to an increase in trust issues amongst colleagues. Trust issues have led to Unprecedented competition. While competition can be a good motivation at work, but it can also prove for yourself to believe that you’re proficient or feeble. The best way to deal with this is to maximize communication amongst each other. Try to look at your colleagues with an optimistic view and not as a competitor.Don’t try to compare yourself with others and meddle with the work allocated to your colleague.

(Remember your mental health is important, and if this is what it takes, then it is worth it)

The secret of Work life balance: You need to dwell upon the fact that work-life balance is a mindset. If your mental health is balanced, then your professional space will also be balanced. The secret to maintaining a mental balance is not rocket science; it’s just a simple 8-8-8 rule. You work 8 hours a day, another 8 hours is for recreational activities and the remaining 8 hours is rest. Following this rule will ensure the boundaries between work and personal life are not crossed, and your mental health will be safeguarded.

(Remember you can customize the 8-8-8 rule as per your convenience, but it should have a balance between work, recreational activities, and rest.)

While this line in between home and work life blurs, we certainly need to conform to adjustments to retain that work-life balance. No longer can work from home be counted as a luxury hence to be equipped for this abrupt shift and to get an equilibrium, the above are a few things to be maintained in mind in considering your emotional wellness is of extreme relevance.